Self Control in Muslim Masculinity (Part 2)…
The Prophet S Said: "One who guarantees me about that which is between his jaws i.e., tongue and that which is between his thighs i.e., private parts, I am responsible (guarantor) for his Paradise." (Bukhari) This is the ultimate in self control. Self control begins in controlling what you say as we stated in the last post. Controlling the tongue is something I struggle with every day. It is so hard to simply keep my mouth shut when I have that fiery feeling like I need to say something. This is especially the case when we are angry or have some negativity to let out.
There is a tremendous amount of wisdom and lessons that can be taken from this statement. There are things that happen inside of us that lead us to say bad things or useless things. In this statement the Prophet S guided us to have control over the gateway of emitting the tests that we have inside ourselves. That is to say, we may get angry or feel wronged or slighted. We may even be right, but the Prophet S instructed us to guard the tongue that conveys and spreads that negativity all over. This shows us that Allah will test us on the inside. That is inevitable. However, it is what we do with the tests that we have on the inside that we are judged for.
The same goes for our private parts. The Prophet S did not say "do not be attracted to women." He said to guard our genitals. Its not the attraction that is the sin. It is act we do because of our attraction. This puts the owership of salvation into our hands which is very healthy for us as men as we want to possess as much control over our destiny as possible. Sometimes the urge may seem unstoppable and impossible to resist. For some of us, it may approach that status, but most of us know deep down, there is something deeper. The proof is this: after you are done having satisfying sex, then what do you think about? Is your mind revolving around the next time you will have sex or does your mind wander to other matters? For most of us, we mentally move on from that act until the next time we are in a state of sexual arousal.
The control over these two simple pieces of flesh will guarantee us paradise. This is for a reason. It is not easy to contain the urges that flow out of these two parts of our anatomy.
No comments yet.
Leave a comment
Donate
Recognition Wall
Categories
- A wife versus a girlfriend
- Anger
- Black Male Development
- Body Image
- Compromise versus Emasculation
- Confidence and Security
- Destiny
- Family
- Fatherhood
- Importance of Positive Male Role Models
- Importance of Sports
- Infatuation
- Intimacy
- Knowledge
- Leadership
- Male Bonding
- Male Emotion
- Male versus Masculine
- Manhood
- Masculine Development
- Masculine Spirituality
- Masculinity Model
- Mate Selection
- Motivation
- Priorities
- Rejection
- Respect
- Responsibility
- Sex
- Should a Woman Like You or Respect You?
- Strength
- The Need for More Positive Males
- The Peace Model
- The Woman You Can Bring Home
- Violence
- Vulnerability
