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Anger and Muslim Masculinity…

"A person who is angered quickly shows a sign that their ego still has a grasp over them"

I found this saying to be one of the most profound statements that I have heard in a long time. Like many of us, I come from a family line that has a quick temper. Anger is something that I deal with and try to control to the best of my ability on a daily basis. The Muslim and Non Muslim men nowadays see anger as something very masculine, like it is a strength. I beg to differ. As stated in the masculine development model, the epitome of strength is self control. People can and do control others when they know what emotional buttons to push. It is arguably one of the most prominent ways that women with bad intent control men in detrimental ways.

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Strength and Manhood

I believe that the greatest strength that a man can have is the ability to control himself in all facets of life. True strength is the only way to attain complete manhood. The way that strength is portrayed in media and everyday life is the exact opposite of that. It is seen as something glorified and strong to have a lack of emotional self control and psychological well being. It seems that the more that we give in to our own whims, then the stronger we are. Those who do not do so are belittled and made to be humiliated. This is a backwards way of looking at strength. One of the main meanings of strength is the ability to endure. The most constant attack on us is the desires that come from within ourselves. Most people are not interested in working on themselves in that manner. So how do we begin to become stronger? The first thing is to identify what makes us weaker.

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