Black Male Development
Tests Build Character…
It has been a long time, a very long time since my last post. I have had a lot of time to think about life and what is important. Our development towards masculinity is a lifelong one. There will be many tests in the way. One may wonder, "why do there have to be so many tests in life? Why cannot there be peace througought life?" Let us remember, the predominant characteristic of Masculinity is strength. Someone who is very strong has to maintain thier strength. A bodybuilder must consistently put his muscles under significant stress in order to keep the strength that he has.
Muslim Masculinity and Tantalization…
Muslim Masculinity and Tantalization have quite the relationship. They are intimately connected. One may ask what is tantalization? I would say that the life of this world is embodied in this single word: tantalization. So what is is? The Merriam Webster definition of tantalization is: To excite something else by exposing something desirable while keeping it out of reach. Some brothers may say "don't people get what they want in this life?" For example, one may see a beautiful woman and the man may be able to do whatever he wants to her. One would think that such a situation would disprove the notion that life teases us. One could not be further from the truth.
A Beard and Islamic Masculinity…
A lot of people link a beard and Islamic Masculinity together. Sometimes it is done correctly, sometimes it is not connected accurately. Let us remember the difference between Muslim Masculinity and Islamic Masculinity. Muslim Masculinity is based upon Muslims, who are human beings and fallible. Sometimes there are flaws and inconsistencies in how the proper masculinity is manifested. Islamic Masculinity is based upon the perfect way of life. The oneness of the creator and the heavens and earth all intermingling together. It is based on the religion of Islam. It is based upon the masculinity of the most elevated and beloved creation of Allah, the Prophet Muhammad S. Islamic Masculinity is correct and perfect in system and in reality.
Entitlement and Muslim Masculinity…
Part of Muslim Masculinity is this notion of entitlement. Entitlement is essentially feeling you deserve something without working for it. This is an issue for most men. Muslim Masculinity does not escape this problem as we are still human beings in need of Masculine Development. Feeling entitled to something is quite frankly one of the most disgusting characteristics to me. The weird thing is, throughout life changing experiences I see in myself how entitled I think I am to certain things. It is still disgusting. I know when we see someone else doing wrong, we point the finger and get angry. The question I have is do we have the same reaction towards ourselves when we are culprits of undesirable actions?
Destiny and Islamic Manhood…
Destiny and Islamic Manhood are intertwined. Destiny is not merely a coincidence based on our choices as men. It is the function of our proper development in Muslim Masculinity. Allah has set out rules for certain types of people. God makes promises to us all over the Quran. For example, if we have trust in his sustanence, then he will provide for us. If we consciously disobey him, then we will be punished in some way shape or form. If we struggle for Allah's sake then he will provide us with victory in this life and the next. The promises and the guarantees are absolute concepts in the universe. What is not absolute is what we choose to be.
Males are the source of all world problems…
Yes, I said it. Males are the source of all world problems. But let us remember, there is a difference between males and men. Males simply have a penis, higher levels of testosterone, and usually more physical strength and a deeper voice. Men, real men have values and principles to guide those tools. So as stated before it is simply the males who bring demise upon society and not women.
Self Control and Islamic Masculinity (Part 3)…
The secret of self control towards achieving Islamic Masculinity is submission to God. In submitting to Allah we do not simply limit our power to our own carnal bodies. Furthermore, we do not limit our power to relying on others who believe in our peceived power, status, or financial independence. When we properly submit, then we only limit our potential to whatever God wants to give us.
Self Control in Muslim Masculinity (Part 2)…
The Prophet S Said: "One who guarantees me about that which is between his jaws i.e., tongue and that which is between his thighs i.e., private parts, I am responsible (guarantor) for his Paradise." (Bukhari) This is the ultimate in self control. Self control begins in controlling what you say as we stated in the last post. Controlling the tongue is something I struggle with every day. It is so hard to simply keep my mouth shut when I have that fiery feeling like I need to say something. This is especially the case when we are angry or have some negativity to let out.
Self Control in Muslim Masuclinity (part 1)…
Verily all the keys to passing through the trials and tribulations in our life lie within self control. Furthermore self control must be based in some type of principle. There is no self control without the principle to back that internal struggle. The first stage of the Masculine Development Model is Principles. For without principles to believe in, all other things in life are useless. Self Control is the protection of all our principles. When we lose our self control then we lose everything that we are.
Emotional Control and Muslim Masculinity…
A man that can control himself can control his universe. Emotional control is arguably the most significant deficit we have within Muslim Masculinity on this planet. The globalization of western Euro-American culture confines most sentimental emotions into one manifestation: Anger. It does not seem to matter of a man is hurt, sad, depressed, anxious, scared or anything else. The acceptable way to maintain this deformed definition of masculinity is to be angry and act without reason.
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