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How to Treat a Woman…
I do not profess to be an expert on Women. I doubt that anyone except Allah would claim that with confidence. But I do know how to treat a woman. There are a few basics to keep in mind that most people forget. These points are things that I have experienced throughout my lifetime through talking to people, taking in experiences, studying, reading, researching, and simply living the natural trial and errors of life.
Hard Work
Hard work is something that is part of our destiny to our completion of Manhood. Putting hard work and making a difference in the world through your efforts is a trait that we as men must naturally have. Part of the emasculation that occurs in the impoverished and the minority communities is a lazy and bad work ethic. I am not talking about people who do not have jobs or are going through rough times. I am simply stating a mental and spiritual phase that unfortunately most of our brothers in humanity possess. We as men must move beyond our state as it is unhealthy for us to have other women, children and men who do not invest in our community or loved ones make decisions and provide for us.
The G Word
Eventually I was going to have to address this topic especially being a Mens Issues blog. That topic is gay males. My beliefs in terms of faith and principle are the foundation of my being opposed to the practice of homosexuality in both males and females. I understand and can sympathize that people can have feelings for others of the same sex. However the practice of same sex intimacy and relationships is where I am apposed to. One of the main reasons is that there is a severe lack of perpetuation or sustainability of the Human race. No reproduction comes out of it. Another reason is that homosexuality goes against the physiological and spiritual nature of Man. The clearest of proof is by simply observing your genitals. Your hands were created for you to use to grab things and eat. Your feet help you walk and kick and stand. Your nose is meant to smell things and your ears to hear and your eyes to see. Thus your penis was made to inject semen into a vagina, thus creating the beginnings of new life.
Motivation and Priorities…
Spending as much time in psychology as I have, I guess I know a thing or two about Human motivation and people's priorities. A very simple principle I have learned is that *People will do what they want to if motivated*. Prior to today I had called the sprint store to see when the Palm Pre was coming out and what time the store was going to open. So I had it all planned. I would wake up early in the morning (about 7am) before my wife did, I would go to the sprint store and be there at about 7:30am and just walk in when the store opens and get the phone and surprise my wife with the most anticipated phone this year!
Fear and Responsibility
The way that we handle fear and responsibility are vital to our journey to the completion of our manhood. Both fear and responsibility are present inside all of us men, but what separates men from boys is how we deal with fear and how we handle our responsibility. I am defining fear as a chronic and potentially crippling avoidance to engage in someone or something. Merriam-Webster Online defines fear as an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger. I define fear as something different than being scared. Being scared can most certainly become a function or manifestation of fear, but it can also be something temporary.
Halim’s Masculine Development Model for Males and Men
Taken from my blog on Niyah
Let’s face it; most women do not know how to properly pick a man that is best for them since it’s an emotional decision in picking a partner (it almost always is). It’s like buying a house. You see the house and feel all these things and if it hits the heart a certain way. Then you want it and you already see it as being yours. The reality is that the house may have everything you want but not necessarily everything you need. The same goes with men. They may look great and have lots of money, but they may also not give two cents about you, your issues, feelings, your community, your family, and so on.
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