We have been placed on this planet as representatives of Allah towards the creation. Every position of leadership is to represent and serve a certain contingency of other people. All leaders represent something or someone. What happens to most leaders is that leaders let their position get to their corrupted part of their soul. Leaders begin to think that they are in no need of the people or contingencies that they in fact are supposed to represent. We do the same thing towards God. We are placed here to represent what Allah does to the creation which is unconditionally benefit and prosper all that is around us. We have capabilities that enable us to conquer what is around us, and since we can do so, we engage in that behavior. We fall further into that corruption to a point where we neither are concious of God, nor do we even think that we are in need of Him. This is what we call arrogance.

Confidence functions like hope or faith in oneself and the abilities that are bestowed onto us. This proper context of confidence is not outside the realm of dependency on God. We still need Allah. We still look to him for help. At the same time, we still have faith that we can accomplish a task set out for us. For example, when I was younger (about 10 years old) I played on a football team. Every Saturday for two mothns I would go out with my team and compete against another team. Allah bestowed upon me and many of my other teammates a high level of talent in football for kids that age. So I would pray to God before each game to aid us in victory. At the same time, I also had a high level of confidence going into each game that we were going to win. This confidence was not without Allah's help, but it was a faith that my team and I were given something by God to defeat the opposing team. Arrogance is different in that a person would feel that they do not need the help of God or anyone else to win. They would feel that their ability was their own and is inherently better than most or even all others. Real men are confident, not arrogant.

We as men get pushed, urged, and seduced into being arrogant seemingly by every form or media (including people). Nearly all of us fall into it because in our distorted perception of manhood, we have fallen into thinking that this is a form of strength. Let us remember from the Masculine Development Model that the second step after having principles is possessing the fortitude to withstand all the forces that aim to diminish the principles we have. Ultimate strength is the control over self. When one can completely control the self, then no one can control him save God. This is because the only principles that can withstand the natural deviants and poisons of our Human Nature are the Principles of Allah. The higher the level and more developed one becomes on this path to masculinity, the more of the world that will be subjugated to him. It will be subjugated to him to spread mercy and not oppression.

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Men have The Three Hungers of Men: Food, Lust, and Ego. The first one is food. Many of us have a special relationship with food, whether it makes our body feel extra good, it can help us deal with stress; we may associate eating with deep thought, tranquility, or peace. Sometimes this relationship and the desire for food can overtake us and begin to rule us as we evade controlling our appetite at all costs. If we continue down this path as many of us know, then we simply become or appetite and we consume and try to quench a hunger that is really everlasting. We should treat our hunger as something like chronic condition, which is we treat it and put it at bay because if we simply. There is nothing wrong with hunger or food, but becoming hunger and becoming the food we eat (full of fat and sugar) is something not many of us men desire.

The second hunger is lust. Since puberty most men have this hunger that is chronic for the remainder of our lives. The dysfunctional attempts to completely satisfy this urge is the cause for the degradation of many societies including our own as we males are glorified for treating the most beautiful creation in women as sex toys to reach orgasmic pleasure. Orgasms are fine and so is taking a woman and being faithful to her in and out of bed, but men are more than their orgasms, much more. Lust is the desire to reach or get as close to that orgasmic pleasure that is within us all. The first stage in knowing that there is a problem is recognizing that the problem exists. If the bottom line use for women is our lust and we see them as a desirable clump of flesh that gives us the orgasmic pleasure; then there is a problem. If all we want is that pleasure and after that pleasure we leave them and alleviate ourselves of commitment and responsibility; then there is a problem. This is where the principles in the male development model come in as we need our principles in place that we value ourselves. If we do not try to regain control of our desires, then one day we will be too old and decrepit to be desirable to whom we want, and all we will be left with is our desire, and no, pornography does not solve that problem.

The third and most destructive hunger is our ego. Our egos have been the root of nearly every evil done on a massive level in this world. It is about or acquisition of power as we see it, autonomy, praise, and all other people places and things that support the notion that we ourselves are in complete control of the affairs in our world. Again, the Masculine Development Model addresses this in the advanced stage of submission. If a male thinks all things revolve around him and are dependent on him, then one day, that male will be all that he has, quite simply. There will be no money, no loved ones, no palace, no praise, nothing. It will be an everlasting cycle of regret and resentment towards self that the male cannot sustain all that he wants and then tries to abandon the hungers, needs and desires that brought him to that place to show his strength and power, but he will find that he cannot escape the black hole of arrogance. The most basic and potent root of arrogance in that a male needs absolutely nothing and is completely self sufficient. If we persist on this path, we will lose all but ourselves and even then we will not want ourselves. Submission is key. Treating and controlling these hungers of food, lust and ego are key to Strength and our complete and unadulterated happiness as men completing our manhood.

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