Leadership
Muslim Masculinity and Tantalization…
Muslim Masculinity and Tantalization have quite the relationship. They are intimately connected. One may ask what is tantalization? I would say that the life of this world is embodied in this single word: tantalization. So what is is? The Merriam Webster definition of tantalization is: To excite something else by exposing something desirable while keeping it out of reach. Some brothers may say "don't people get what they want in this life?" For example, one may see a beautiful woman and the man may be able to do whatever he wants to her. One would think that such a situation would disprove the notion that life teases us. One could not be further from the truth.
Entitlement and Muslim Masculinity…
Part of Muslim Masculinity is this notion of entitlement. Entitlement is essentially feeling you deserve something without working for it. This is an issue for most men. Muslim Masculinity does not escape this problem as we are still human beings in need of Masculine Development. Feeling entitled to something is quite frankly one of the most disgusting characteristics to me. The weird thing is, throughout life changing experiences I see in myself how entitled I think I am to certain things. It is still disgusting. I know when we see someone else doing wrong, we point the finger and get angry. The question I have is do we have the same reaction towards ourselves when we are culprits of undesirable actions?
Destiny and Islamic Manhood…
Destiny and Islamic Manhood are intertwined. Destiny is not merely a coincidence based on our choices as men. It is the function of our proper development in Muslim Masculinity. Allah has set out rules for certain types of people. God makes promises to us all over the Quran. For example, if we have trust in his sustanence, then he will provide for us. If we consciously disobey him, then we will be punished in some way shape or form. If we struggle for Allah's sake then he will provide us with victory in this life and the next. The promises and the guarantees are absolute concepts in the universe. What is not absolute is what we choose to be.
Males are the source of all world problems…
Yes, I said it. Males are the source of all world problems. But let us remember, there is a difference between males and men. Males simply have a penis, higher levels of testosterone, and usually more physical strength and a deeper voice. Men, real men have values and principles to guide those tools. So as stated before it is simply the males who bring demise upon society and not women.
Self Control and Islamic Masculinity (Part 3)…
The secret of self control towards achieving Islamic Masculinity is submission to God. In submitting to Allah we do not simply limit our power to our own carnal bodies. Furthermore, we do not limit our power to relying on others who believe in our peceived power, status, or financial independence. When we properly submit, then we only limit our potential to whatever God wants to give us.
Self Control in Muslim Masuclinity (part 1)…
Verily all the keys to passing through the trials and tribulations in our life lie within self control. Furthermore self control must be based in some type of principle. There is no self control without the principle to back that internal struggle. The first stage of the Masculine Development Model is Principles. For without principles to believe in, all other things in life are useless. Self Control is the protection of all our principles. When we lose our self control then we lose everything that we are.
Confidence & Arrogance (Part 1 of 2)…
Real men have confidence, not arrogance. They are two different things. The dangerous thing about the two constructs is that many times people perceive them to be the same thing from observing behavior. According to Webster's dictionary confidence is defined as: 1. A feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances 2. Faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way. So we see that there is a faith in one's abilities or situation. Arrogance is defined as: 1. An attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.
Unity: It begins with U (Part 5 of 5)…
We must realize the potential that Allah put in each of us to be his representatives on this planet and act out his will by bringing peace and unity to all the creation. Sustaining harmony in nature without abusing Allah’s creatures is how we provide unity to the creation. We must separate the evil forces within our souls and purify ourselves with the word of Allah. Our men need to be real men and show other males how to develop into men. Our women must do the same to the female.
Unity: It Starts with U (Part 4 of 5)…
There is great news. Even though there is division within the Muslims, the great news is that a portion of the Muslim Ummah is united and will always be united. Allah says so in the Quran about this section of Muslims called Mu’minoon (believers). Allah says in the 49th chapter (Al Hujarat) in the 10th verse: The Believers are but a single Brotherhood: So make peace and harmony between your two (contending) brothers; and fear Allah, that ye may receive Mercy. Allah declares that we are always united if we are believers.
Unity: It Starts With U (Part 3 of 5)…
My father-in-law told me something wise one day. He said the problems the Muslims have today is because the Muslim males do not know how to be men. He said if the males were properly developed Muslim men, then the females would follow suit as it is the female’s nature to follow the one who desires her (the male). Properly developed men are those who are best to their families. Abu Hurairah (r) narrated that the Prophet (s) said: “Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well.” (Tirmidhi 278, 628, 3264 and Abu Dawud).
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