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Male Bonding

Unity: It Starts With U (Part 3 of 5)…

My father-in-law told me something wise one day. He said the problems the Muslims have today is because the Muslim males do not know how to be men. He said if the males were properly developed Muslim men, then the females would follow suit as it is the female’s nature to follow the one who desires her (the male). Properly developed men are those who are best to their families. Abu Hurairah (r) narrated that the Prophet (s) said: “Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well.” (Tirmidhi 278, 628, 3264 and Abu Dawud).

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Wednesday, October 28th, 2009 Black Male Development, Compromise versus Emasculation, Confidence and Security, Family, Fatherhood, Importance of Positive Male Role Models, Knowledge, Leadership, Male Bonding, Male Emotion, Male versus Masculine, Manhood, Masculine Development, Masculine Spirituality, Masculinity Model, Motivation, Priorities, Respect, Responsibility, Strength, The Need for More Positive Males, Vulnerability No Comments

Unity: It Starts With U (Part 2 of 5)…

Many years ago, my father said something to me that was deeply connected to what the prophet said. It has influenced my work in psychology. He was telling me of a man who had become Muslim, but had improper development before reverting. He said of the person “he felt like a nobody before entering Islam, and after reverting, he still acts like a nobody.” Abu Hurairah (r) narrated that the Prophet (s) said, “Those who were the best in the pre-lslamic period of ignorance will be the best in Islam provided they comprehend the religious knowledge.” (Bukhari 4/572 and Muslim). I have heard amazing stories of change. What connects all those stories is the people wanted the change for themselves first.

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Saturday, October 24th, 2009 Anger, Black Male Development, Compromise versus Emasculation, Confidence and Security, Family, Fatherhood, Importance of Positive Male Role Models, Knowledge, Leadership, Male Bonding, Male Emotion, Male versus Masculine, Manhood, Masculine Development, Masculine Spirituality, Motivation, Priorities, Respect, Responsibility, Strength, The Need for More Positive Males 3 Comments

Male Bonding and Muslim Masculinity…

I was talking to some brothers yesterday and eventually we got onto the subject of the struggles of being married and Muslim Masculinity. I guess you could call it Male Bonding. I had some extra time this past weekend so I went to the local Muslim Owned restaurant called the Fish Dock. I stayed there for most of the day which was about 5pm to 11:30pm. We started discussing community issues and then it blended into personal lives.

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Sunday, August 2nd, 2009 A wife versus a girlfriend, Anger, Black Male Development, Compromise versus Emasculation, Confidence and Security, Family, Fatherhood, Importance of Positive Male Role Models, Intimacy, Leadership, Male Bonding, Male Emotion, Male versus Masculine, Manhood, Masculine Development, Masculine Spirituality, Masculinity Model, Mate Selection, Respect, Responsibility, Should a Woman Like You or Respect You?, Strength, The Need for More Positive Males, Vulnerability 3 Comments

Hard Work

Hard work is something that is part of our destiny to our completion of Manhood. Putting hard work and making a difference in the world through your efforts is a trait that we as men must naturally have. Part of the emasculation that occurs in the impoverished and the minority communities is a lazy and bad work ethic. I am not talking about people who do not have jobs or are going through rough times. I am simply stating a mental and spiritual phase that unfortunately most of our brothers in humanity possess. We as men must move beyond our state as it is unhealthy for us to have other women, children and men who do not invest in our community or loved ones make decisions and provide for us.

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Friday, June 26th, 2009 Black Male Development, Compromise versus Emasculation, Confidence and Security, Family, Fatherhood, Importance of Positive Male Role Models, Leadership, Male Bonding, Male versus Masculine, Manhood, Masculine Development, Masculine Spirituality, Masculinity Model, Motivation, Priorities, Respect, Responsibility, Strength, The Need for More Positive Males 2 Comments

The G Word

Eventually I was going to have to address this topic especially being a Mens Issues blog. That topic is gay males. My beliefs in terms of faith and principle are the foundation of my being opposed to the practice of homosexuality in both males and females. I understand and can sympathize that people can have feelings for others of the same sex. However the practice of same sex intimacy and relationships is where I am apposed to. One of the main reasons is that there is a severe lack of perpetuation or sustainability of the Human race. No reproduction comes out of it. Another reason is that homosexuality goes against the physiological and spiritual nature of Man. The clearest of proof is by simply observing your genitals. Your hands were created for you to use to grab things and eat. Your feet help you walk and kick and stand. Your nose is meant to smell things and your ears to hear and your eyes to see. Thus your penis was made to inject semen into a vagina, thus creating the beginnings of new life.

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Sunday, June 14th, 2009 Family, Fatherhood, Importance of Positive Male Role Models, Intimacy, Leadership, Male Bonding, Male Emotion, Male versus Masculine, Manhood, Masculine Development, Masculine Spirituality, Masculinity Model, Responsibility, Sex, The Need for More Positive Males, Vulnerability No Comments