Masculine Spirituality
Emotional Control and Muslim Masculinity…
A man that can control himself can control his universe. Emotional control is arguably the most significant deficit we have within Muslim Masculinity on this planet. The globalization of western Euro-American culture confines most sentimental emotions into one manifestation: Anger. It does not seem to matter of a man is hurt, sad, depressed, anxious, scared or anything else. The acceptable way to maintain this deformed definition of masculinity is to be angry and act without reason.
Confidence & Arrogance (Part 1 of 2)…
Real men have confidence, not arrogance. They are two different things. The dangerous thing about the two constructs is that many times people perceive them to be the same thing from observing behavior. According to Webster's dictionary confidence is defined as: 1. A feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances 2. Faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way. So we see that there is a faith in one's abilities or situation. Arrogance is defined as: 1. An attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.
Unity: It begins with U (Part 5 of 5)…
We must realize the potential that Allah put in each of us to be his representatives on this planet and act out his will by bringing peace and unity to all the creation. Sustaining harmony in nature without abusing Allah’s creatures is how we provide unity to the creation. We must separate the evil forces within our souls and purify ourselves with the word of Allah. Our men need to be real men and show other males how to develop into men. Our women must do the same to the female.
Unity: It Starts with U (Part 4 of 5)…
There is great news. Even though there is division within the Muslims, the great news is that a portion of the Muslim Ummah is united and will always be united. Allah says so in the Quran about this section of Muslims called Mu’minoon (believers). Allah says in the 49th chapter (Al Hujarat) in the 10th verse: The Believers are but a single Brotherhood: So make peace and harmony between your two (contending) brothers; and fear Allah, that ye may receive Mercy. Allah declares that we are always united if we are believers.
Unity: It Starts With U (Part 3 of 5)…
My father-in-law told me something wise one day. He said the problems the Muslims have today is because the Muslim males do not know how to be men. He said if the males were properly developed Muslim men, then the females would follow suit as it is the female’s nature to follow the one who desires her (the male). Properly developed men are those who are best to their families. Abu Hurairah (r) narrated that the Prophet (s) said: “Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well.” (Tirmidhi 278, 628, 3264 and Abu Dawud).
Unity: It Starts With U (Part 2 of 5)…
Many years ago, my father said something to me that was deeply connected to what the prophet said. It has influenced my work in psychology. He was telling me of a man who had become Muslim, but had improper development before reverting. He said of the person “he felt like a nobody before entering Islam, and after reverting, he still acts like a nobody.” Abu Hurairah (r) narrated that the Prophet (s) said, “Those who were the best in the pre-lslamic period of ignorance will be the best in Islam provided they comprehend the religious knowledge.” (Bukhari 4/572 and Muslim). I have heard amazing stories of change. What connects all those stories is the people wanted the change for themselves first.
Unity Begins With U (Part 1 of 5)…
Unity starts with you. It ends with you. We hear people talk about unity all the time. Everywhere Muslims live, people are crying for unity of the Ummah, our Muslim Community. With all the talk, how come it has not happened? People have many different answers: we are divided as a community, we do not care about one another, and we love this life too much. While many of those contribute to an answer, I have my own answer. Each man and woman is divided within their own souls. They bear witness to this. Most of the people who thrive on speaking about negativity in others suggest verbally and nonverbally there is a conflict inside their soul. So how can a heart with conflict see so clearly? If there is a conflict in someone’s eyes such as bleach or sand or something inhibiting clear vision, can one say they see perfectly? I do not think so.
Fortitude towards Islamic Masculinity…
Remember we talked about the difference between Islamic Masculinity and Muslim Masculinity. Islamic Masculinity is the goal, the endpoint where Allah wants us to be as men of his creation. Muslim masculinity is the road to get to that goal. A significant checkpoint on that road to the completion of manhood and the desirable state of Islamic Masculinity is Fortitude. Webster defines fortitude as strength of mind that enables a person to encounter danger or bear pain or adversity with courage. It is the next step after a man attaches to and lives by his principles. Once a man has some principles, the next situation to occur is that those principles will be tested. This is where the adversity, pain, and other obstacles come into play. A man needs to have the internal strength to bear the burdens of these various tests of ones character. Once the principles are in place they must be assessed to determine how strong those principles are, thus determining how strong you are as a man.
Islamic Masculinity & Muslim Masculinity…
Islamic Masculinity and Muslim Masculinity are two different constructs the way that I see it. I see the former being the end goal and the latter as being the journey to get there. Islam and Islamic Masculinity does not need correcting or redefining. We simply need to make its definition clear to us as men and Muslims. When we have completed our manhood, then we simply eptomize what Islamic Masculinity is supposed to be. Muslim Masculinity on the other hand is a dynamic and an incessantly evolving state of manhood that is possessed by Muslims. That is deficient because human's and Human error is involved with that. Whereas Islam there is absolutely no error in it since Islam involves two things: Allah, and what God wants for his creation. Hopefully through Principles, Fortitude, Composure, and Submission, we may get there some day.
Knowledge and Muslim Masculinity…
The key to completing Muslim Masculinity is having the knowledge of self. The Prophet (s) said that "No man knows himself better than he does." The next level of knowledge is having the knowledge to some degree of the tangible and physical created things. The next level of knowledge is when there is knowledge of the metaphysical and the unseen created things, which brings you to the last level of knowledge which is the knowledge of God, Allah, who created and defined masculinity for all men on earth.
Donate
Recognition Wall
Categories
- A wife versus a girlfriend
- Anger
- Black Male Development
- Compromise versus Emasculation
- Confidence and Security
- Family
- Fatherhood
- Importance of Positive Male Role Models
- Importance of Sports
- Infatuation
- Intimacy
- Knowledge
- Leadership
- Male Bonding
- Male Emotion
- Male versus Masculine
- Manhood
- Masculine Development
- Masculine Spirituality
- Masculinity Model
- Mate Selection
- Motivation
- Priorities
- Rejection
- Respect
- Responsibility
- Sex
- Should a Woman Like You or Respect You?
- Strength
- The Need for More Positive Males
- The Peace Model
- The Woman You Can Bring Home
- Violence
- Vulnerability
