Masculinity Model
Muslim Masculinity and Tantalization…
Muslim Masculinity and Tantalization have quite the relationship. They are intimately connected. One may ask what is tantalization? I would say that the life of this world is embodied in this single word: tantalization. So what is is? The Merriam Webster definition of tantalization is: To excite something else by exposing something desirable while keeping it out of reach. Some brothers may say "don't people get what they want in this life?" For example, one may see a beautiful woman and the man may be able to do whatever he wants to her. One would think that such a situation would disprove the notion that life teases us. One could not be further from the truth.
Entitlement and Muslim Masculinity…
Part of Muslim Masculinity is this notion of entitlement. Entitlement is essentially feeling you deserve something without working for it. This is an issue for most men. Muslim Masculinity does not escape this problem as we are still human beings in need of Masculine Development. Feeling entitled to something is quite frankly one of the most disgusting characteristics to me. The weird thing is, throughout life changing experiences I see in myself how entitled I think I am to certain things. It is still disgusting. I know when we see someone else doing wrong, we point the finger and get angry. The question I have is do we have the same reaction towards ourselves when we are culprits of undesirable actions?
Self Control and Islamic Masculinity (Part 3)…
The secret of self control towards achieving Islamic Masculinity is submission to God. In submitting to Allah we do not simply limit our power to our own carnal bodies. Furthermore, we do not limit our power to relying on others who believe in our peceived power, status, or financial independence. When we properly submit, then we only limit our potential to whatever God wants to give us.
Self Control in Muslim Masuclinity (part 1)…
Verily all the keys to passing through the trials and tribulations in our life lie within self control. Furthermore self control must be based in some type of principle. There is no self control without the principle to back that internal struggle. The first stage of the Masculine Development Model is Principles. For without principles to believe in, all other things in life are useless. Self Control is the protection of all our principles. When we lose our self control then we lose everything that we are.
Emotional Control and Muslim Masculinity…
A man that can control himself can control his universe. Emotional control is arguably the most significant deficit we have within Muslim Masculinity on this planet. The globalization of western Euro-American culture confines most sentimental emotions into one manifestation: Anger. It does not seem to matter of a man is hurt, sad, depressed, anxious, scared or anything else. The acceptable way to maintain this deformed definition of masculinity is to be angry and act without reason.
Confidence & Arrogance (Part 1 of 2)…
Real men have confidence, not arrogance. They are two different things. The dangerous thing about the two constructs is that many times people perceive them to be the same thing from observing behavior. According to Webster's dictionary confidence is defined as: 1. A feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances 2. Faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way. So we see that there is a faith in one's abilities or situation. Arrogance is defined as: 1. An attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.
Unity: It Starts With U (Part 3 of 5)…
My father-in-law told me something wise one day. He said the problems the Muslims have today is because the Muslim males do not know how to be men. He said if the males were properly developed Muslim men, then the females would follow suit as it is the female’s nature to follow the one who desires her (the male). Properly developed men are those who are best to their families. Abu Hurairah (r) narrated that the Prophet (s) said: “Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well.” (Tirmidhi 278, 628, 3264 and Abu Dawud).
Fortitude towards Islamic Masculinity…
Remember we talked about the difference between Islamic Masculinity and Muslim Masculinity. Islamic Masculinity is the goal, the endpoint where Allah wants us to be as men of his creation. Muslim masculinity is the road to get to that goal. A significant checkpoint on that road to the completion of manhood and the desirable state of Islamic Masculinity is Fortitude. Webster defines fortitude as strength of mind that enables a person to encounter danger or bear pain or adversity with courage. It is the next step after a man attaches to and lives by his principles. Once a man has some principles, the next situation to occur is that those principles will be tested. This is where the adversity, pain, and other obstacles come into play. A man needs to have the internal strength to bear the burdens of these various tests of ones character. Once the principles are in place they must be assessed to determine how strong those principles are, thus determining how strong you are as a man.
Islamic Masculinity & Muslim Masculinity…
Islamic Masculinity and Muslim Masculinity are two different constructs the way that I see it. I see the former being the end goal and the latter as being the journey to get there. Islam and Islamic Masculinity does not need correcting or redefining. We simply need to make its definition clear to us as men and Muslims. When we have completed our manhood, then we simply eptomize what Islamic Masculinity is supposed to be. Muslim Masculinity on the other hand is a dynamic and an incessantly evolving state of manhood that is possessed by Muslims. That is deficient because human's and Human error is involved with that. Whereas Islam there is absolutely no error in it since Islam involves two things: Allah, and what God wants for his creation. Hopefully through Principles, Fortitude, Composure, and Submission, we may get there some day.
Knowledge and Muslim Masculinity…
The key to completing Muslim Masculinity is having the knowledge of self. The Prophet (s) said that "No man knows himself better than he does." The next level of knowledge is having the knowledge to some degree of the tangible and physical created things. The next level of knowledge is when there is knowledge of the metaphysical and the unseen created things, which brings you to the last level of knowledge which is the knowledge of God, Allah, who created and defined masculinity for all men on earth.
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